Talking About Feelings at Home

Collyvale is full of characters with big feelings. They can be a gentle way in when feelings are hard to talk about.

Using the characters

Try questions like:

"Do you feel a bit like Grimple today, a bit grumbly?"
"What do you think helped Scamper when he felt too big and bouncy?"
"Riley looks after everyone. Who looks after Riley?"

Talking about a character's feelings can feel safer than talking about your own.

Naming your own feelings

When you name your own feelings out loud, you show your child that feelings are normal and manageable:

“I’m feeling a bit frazzled, so I’m going to take a big breath.”

“I felt sad today, and a cuddle helped.”

Keep it simple and calm. You don't need to share grown-up worries, just the feeling and what helps.

Simple scripts for tricky moments

When they're cross: "You're really cross. I'm here. Let's breathe together."
When they're worried: "That sounds worrying. Tell me about it."
When they're sad: "It's OK to feel sad. I'll sit with you."
After a meltdown: "That was a big feeling. You're safe. Shall we have a cuddle?"

A gentle note

Collyvale provides general information, stories and family activities. It is not a medical or mental-health service and does not replace professional advice. If a child's worry is persistent, severe or interfering with everyday life, speak to their school, school nurse or doctor. If you're worried about your own wellbeing, please talk to your doctor. You can also find trusted information at healthychildren.org.

Collyvale is a storybook world for exploring feelings together. It isn’t a source of medical or professional advice. Need a little help?