A trip to the doctor can feel big for a little one. There's a new room, a stranger asking questions and things that feel strange or cold. A little preparation helps the unknown feel smaller, so your child knows what to expect and feels a bit more in control.
What might happen
Every visit is different, but the doctor or nurse might:
Say hello and ask your child's name or age
Listen to their chest with a stethoscope, which can feel a little cold
Look in their ears or mouth with a small light
Ask them to say “Ahhh”
Gently press on their tummy
Only mention the things that are likely at your child's appointment. There's no need to talk about things that won't happen.
Before the visit
Tell your child a day or so ahead, in a calm and matter-of-fact way. Too far ahead can mean too much time to worry.
Play doctors at home with a teddy. Take turns being the doctor and the patient.
Read the poem below together.
Let them bring a favorite teddy or comforter.
On the day
Keep your own voice calm and your words simple.
Let your child sit on your lap if they'd like to.
Try the flower-and-candle breathing together: breathe in slowly as if smelling a flower, then blow out as if blowing out birthday candles.
Be honest. If something might feel strange or a little uncomfortable, say so gently rather than promising it won't.
Afterwards
Tell them what they did well: “You held so still while the doctor listened to your heart.” Praising what they actually did helps them remember the visit as something they managed.
A poem to read together
Big Brave Visit
We're off to see the doctor now, Who helps me grow up strong, A friendly check from top to toe To see that nothing's wrong.
They'll say hello and ask my name, And maybe ask my age, Then write some notes about me down Upon a special page.
They'll listen with a stethoscope, It might feel rather cool, It hears my heartbeat thump-thump-thump Like drumming in a school.
They'll peek inside my ears with light To see what's hiding there, And I'll say "Ahhh!" just like a lion With a roar I love to share.
They might press gently on my tummy Or tap my knee to see It give a funny little jump, A kick all by itself, whee!
And if I feel a wobbly worry, I know just what to do: Breathe in slow, like smelling flowers, Then blow the candles, whoo.
I'll hold my teddy, squeeze a hand, And count up to ten, Then soon it's done, and I'll feel proud And brave, and strong again.
Visit Dr. Tillywell's Clinic
In Collyvale, Dr. Tillywell and Nurse Nuzzle look after everyone who feels unwell or wobbly. Visiting their clinic together is a gentle way to talk about doctors before the real day.
Collyvale provides general information, stories and family activities. It is not a medical or mental-health service and does not replace professional advice. If a child's worry is persistent, severe or interfering with everyday life, speak to their school, school nurse or doctor. If you're worried about your own wellbeing, please talk to your doctor. You can also find trusted information at healthychildren.org.
Collyvale is a storybook world for exploring feelings together. It isn’t a source of medical or professional advice. Need a little help?